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Planning Your Wedding After Getting Engaged - Where to Start

I said yes! Now what …?

Firstly… Congratulations!! Enjoy newly engaged blissdom. We personally love seeing people in those early-engaged days, when the term fiancé is still whispered but gets louder each time until it becomes one euphoric roar. Even more exciting is telling people the news. However, be prepared to get bombarded with questions regarding the when, where, and what. These questions can be a bit daunting when you're still in the euphoria of enjoying newly engaged life and haven't thought about the finer details. Not having any idea how to answer these questions is perfectly normal, so don't stress if you don't have a response. Sometimes, people want to be so much a part of your excitement that they want to know all the details and don't realise the amount of planning that goes into such a big event. The following article aims to address the sometimes daunting period of knowing there is a lot to do, but not knowing where to start. It provides a very brief introduction to some things that are worth thinking about straight off the bat.

First step

Take a deep breath and know that it is normal to not have all the details mapped out so soon in the process. There are so many resources to use in each stage of the planning process, such as Pinterest and Instagram for inspiration and for the planning and booking, which aim to take the stress out of planning a wedding. You totally got this.


Think about the big picture. What does the wedding mean to you and your fiancé? Is it about celebrating your love with the people you care about the most or is it about marking the beginning of your life together? Asking these questions helps shape the wedding and is an excellent starting point from which a myriad of other decisions can be made. Highlight the things that will be most important for you both on the day. Will the quality of food, the music, or the flowers be something that will impact your personal enjoyment of the wedding day? This gives you a focus on what is important and what is not, and gives you an idea of what to spend most of your time and energy on.

Creating a Pinterest board or starting a wedding folder with magazine cut-outs are some common ways to get inspiration for the actual wedding. The key, however, is to not go too overboard with the pins or articles; otherwise, you could get bogged down with all the possibilities out there. Start big, but do the bulk of your pinning or article collecting once you've narrowed down the general theme of your wedding so that the majority is focussed.


Now that you have an idea of the direction and type of wedding you want, it's time to talk budget. What are the options available to you with consideration to the venue, location, and the things that are most important? It could be handy to construct a pie graph to work out what percentage of your budget you are willing to spend for all the big-ticket items, including catering, venue, band, photographer/videographer, and attire. Explore your options on websites such as to see what options are in your budget and the availability of various venues. Be honest and prepared when initially discussing the budget, as it is likely going to be a conversation throughout the planning process. Think about what you, as individuals, think is most important; and come into the discussion with an open mind.

The Wedding Party

Deciding who is in the wedding party often requires some hard decisions, so take your time. Be completely honest with yourself and don't ask anyone out of guilt. Consider how your chosen few will fit into the big picture, and be honest about what your expectations of them are, and their ability to meet those expectations.

Constructing an Action Plan, a.k.a. Wedding Timetable

This is getting into the nitty-gritty and finer details. Depending on how long you have until the big day, a wedding timetable helps break up the things on your to-do list according to what can be done now and up until the week of the wedding. It is advisable to place the things that are most important or that require a lot of notice as a more immediate priority. A wedding timetable gives you a visual representation of what needs to be done and hopefully relieves the stress as it breaks up and maps out all the things that need to be done into a manageable schedule. There is a myriad of wedding timetables online that are worth checking out.

And most important…

Look after yourself and be kind to yourself and each other. Planning a wedding is all part of the process of starting your life together. It doesn't have to be a stressful and demanding time. It can be rewarding and fun but, like most things in life, goes a lot smoother if your basic needs are met first. Simple things like rest and hydration go a long way when faced with a challenge. If things ever start to feel overwhelming, focus on your breathing and don't be afraid to ask for help. No one expects you to do it all yourselves, and most people in the wedding party want to help in any way they can.